So they just want more money from you?
You feel it’s unfair. You feel the relentless demand on you for money.
As if you as a person aren’t valuable anymore.
As long as you just show up with the money.
The part where you left just about everything behind for them when you moved out, seems to be conveniently forgotten. The part that you are also trying to rebuild your life, doesn’t seem to matter. The part that you also need money to survive, and to be able to have something in place for when you do get to see your kids ...
It feels that you and your needs have become irrelevant. And when you try and talk about it with others they just say things like “Suck it up, Dude. Be a man’, or “Just put your head down, work harder, and it will get better - eventually’.
Geesh thanks … so not helpful.
And feeling sorry for yourself right now is not going to help you either.
It makes sense to me that when you get that ‘polite’ reminder for more money that it only makes you feel angry. What are you supposed to do differently! You are already doing as much you feel you can. How is asking for more money (again) suddenly going to change things?
Dude, can I be honest with you ... I wonder if that is what's really going on?
I wonder if that anger might have a different feeling to it.
Something about a sense of anger, towards yourself?
It’s freek’n tough enough out there I know. Now you have to meet these ‘additional’ demands. Like don’t they know how tough it is already! And what if you can’t meet them? What if no matter how hard you work, no matter how much you feel you are putting in, in the end, it just isn’t enough to meet their demands. There just isn’t enough to settle the rising debt they stack up against you?
And what if I told you that isn’t the real problem here …
Dude, this has more to do with how you think.
About your ability to generate more income. To produce more cash. This is about the way you feel about your ability to meet their demands and quieten the noise.
This is about what it says about you if you can.
What it says about you, as a person, if you can’t.
More importantly, what will that mean about you as a dad?
When you are ready to face up to these fears you will be ready to deal with what is holding you back in this space. When you begin to acknowledge your anticipatory fear of pending failure you will be able to quieten the noise in your head and deal with the real issue at heart.
To do that I help my clients re-establish ownership of their powers. You will need to discover your power to think for yourself. Your power to speak for yourself. Your ability to move and act for yourself. Your power to choose for yourself.
When you have more certainty of owning your powers you will improve your sense of self-value and worth. You will suddenly become more resourceful. You will stop giving your power away to your fears or the fears of others. You will begin to change the way that you show up in your efforts to generate income. You will begin to feel that you are worth earning more income and start attracting opportunities to make a reality.
The most powerful shift will be your ability to change the meaning that you give to whether you are able to meet the demands or not. You will begin to separate your power to generate more income (or not) from your ability to be a good dad.
If you are ready to learn how to re-establish your personal powers and take back your ability to generate more income while keeping your identity of being a good dad intact, send me a PM.
We can chat on messenger about my 8-week 1:1 transformational coaching program, and if it’s a good fit, get you started right away.